Every person in the world pretty much thinks that they don’t need to read things like this, but then what happens when your relationship fails? You will want to know about these things! You will want to know how to get past the hurt, or just to prevent the relationship from failing. Before that happens, these questions and tips CAN help you get past the fighting without destroying the relationship…
So if you really want tips from people with first-hand knowledge, take time to read these tips that we have provided you with!!!
Questions you could ASK YOURSELF about your relationship:
- What are the main things that are causing my relationship to fail?
- What could we have done as a couple to make things better?
- Would it have worked better if we had communicated about the important things?
- Would communicating have saved our relationship?
- What are the best ways to prevent failing in a relationship?
- What makes spouses cheat?
Some of the most common tips for PREVENTING RELATIONSHIP FAILURE:
- You have to love yourself before you can have a true relationship
- Be honest with yourself and always express your feelings
- Have your own ideas (have your own say)
- Listen non-judgmentally
- Be respectful to your partner
- Trust and be trustworthy
- Agree to disagree
What causes the other to CHEAT?
Well, there are many different reasons. One main reason is that the other is just not in love or is not attracted to you anymore. Another reason is the other may think YOU are cheating, so they do it in spite, or there could be one obvious reason… THEY ARE JUST A HO!! Another main reason is that the other might just like the excitement of doing something wrong and getting away with it. One last reason that could play a role is either not being around, or just not meeting their needs.
The COMMON reasons why relationships fail:
- Reasons for relationship failures:
a. Failure to support each others growth
i. Being threatened by each others success; jealousy; when they feel like they have to hide their success from each other
b. Control issues:
i. Hypersensitive; “ your not the boss of me,” or “I don’t need another father/mother”
c. Selfishness:
i. Focusing on what you are getting/ not what your giving; keeping tally for doing each other; taking not on “who gets the bigger piece of cake”
d. Resistance on taking responsibility for self actions:
i. “Your not that great either…remember when u did…”
e. Failure to share the burden during hard times:
i. One taking all of the blame-feeling like they are the one who has to do something to fix it
f. Begging, having thinking about the end in mind:
i. “Will they screw me over when we break up”
g. Lack of respect:
i. Calling each other names
h. Framing every compromise as a win/lose situation:
i. Take the time to think about it, look forward to the good things it bring
i. Choosing partner because something is better than nothing:
i. Using them as a placeholder until something better comes along. If you can’t say immediately why you’re with them, then it was not meant to be.
How to PREVENT relationship failure:
· You should never base your relationship on…
o Sex, money and laughter- it is like trying to build a house on quick sand.
· Fights…
o Try your hardest to not to start them…DUHH!!
· What attracted you to them in the first place…?
o Identify the key action- make your partner desire you!
· Tips (MORE):
o Ask friends and family for advise
o Reason with your partner
o Promise that you will change
o Wishing your relationship will survive
o Offering your partner reassurance
o Tell them you love them more than anything work as hard as you can save the relationship
In our research about why relationships fail. We found that some of the most common reasons for a break up are commitment problems, lack of passion, physical, or emotional abuse and infidelity, and selfishness like when a partner starts to focus more on what they are getting not what they are giving. We also found that lack or respect is a big reason for a relationship to fail. That also goes with emotional abuse. Another reason we found that you should never base a relationship on sex, money, or laughter. You should be in a relationship with some one you like for who they are and the good things they do. It’s always good to ask advice from family and friends, because a lot of the time they see things you don’t.
FACT:
- U.S. citizens (women)- 51% of women in the united states live without a spouse
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